“I’d just been dumped by a guy who wasn’t right for me, but it didn’t matter: I was still hurt and frustrated. It was somewhat out of character for me to make the first move, and when I asked him out, he resisted. Eventually he said yes, and we’ve been together for almost four years.
Making the first move taught me to trust my instincts. I kept going back and forth about my feelings and getting discouraged. There’s been nothing more empowering for me than learning that it’s okay to make the first move. And that it doesn’t mean you’re ‘throwing yourself at a guy.’ It just means that you’re stepping into your power as a woman to make decisions about who and what you want.”
“I’d just been dumped by a guy who wasn’t right for me, but it didn’t matter: I was still hurt and frustrated. It was somewhat out of character daten met fatflirt for me to make the first move, and when I asked him out, he resisted. Eventually he said yes, and we’ve been together for almost four years.
Making the first move taught me to trust my instincts. I kept going back and forth about my feelings and getting discouraged. There’s been nothing more empowering for me than learning that it’s okay to make the first move. And that it doesn’t mean you’re ‘throwing yourself at a guy.’ It just means that you’re stepping into your power as a woman to make decisions about who and what you want.”
“The first guy I asked out was Nick, circa 2000. I had a huge crush on him in 11 th grade, and I decided to ask him to prom. I’d never really dated much, so I was insanely nervous and practiced what I was going to say. I ‘ran into him’ after stalking him for a couple days outside the school counselor’s office. I’m pretty sure my face was beet red because my heart was pounding, and I just said, ‘Hey Nick, do you want to go to prom with me?’ I was so relieved and proud of myself that I didn’t even hear his response. Which was ‘No.’
He was older than me, a gentleman, and did I mention we worked together?
He said something like he wasn’t going to go or wanted to go solo, but I walked out of that office feeling like I had just climbed Mount Everest. I just did it and surprisingly, his answer was beside the point.”
“The first guy I asked out was Nick, circa 2000. I had a huge crush on him in 11 th grade, and I decided to ask him to prom. I’d never really dated much, so I was insanely nervous and practiced what I was going to say. I ‘ran into him’ after stalking him for a couple days outside the school counselor’s office. I’m pretty sure my face was beet red because my heart was pounding, and I just said, ‘Hey Nick, do you want to go to prom with me?’ I was so relieved and proud of myself that I didn’t even hear his response. Which was ‘No.’
He was older than me, a gentleman, and did I mention we worked together?
He said something like he wasn’t going to go or wanted to go solo, but I walked out of that office feeling like I had just climbed Mount Everest. I just did it and surprisingly, his answer was beside the point.”
“Honestly, making the first move on a dating app didn’t bother me, it’s just a matter of saying ‘Hi’ and chatting (though I’d never go up to a guy in a bar like that-I’m too shy). When I connected with Stu, I just said, ‘Hi Stu, how are you doing?’-and it went on from there. I realized that it doesn’t have to be a big deal-it’s as simple as saying hi.”